I Want My Ex Girlfriend Back 5 Serious Mistakes You Can Make That Will Drive Her Away

Published: 15th January 2010
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"I really want my ex girlfriend back," you tell me, "but everything I do seems to drive her away!" Unfortunately, you are not the only guy who's been in this situation. So what we're going to do is look at 5 mistakes you could make - but we'll look at it from her point of view.

Some of these will seem harsh to you, like I'm ripping you to shreds; but I assure you that's not the case. What I'm doing here is showing how your ex girlfriend might react if you tried some of these routines on her. After all, I've played this romance game a few times, and I know there's nothing a woman enjoys more than watching a man make a fool of himself over her and then telling her girlfriends about it later. So let's try to avoid this kind of mortification, and take a look at these 5 serious mistakes that will drive her away.

1. Call or text her constantly. This is guaranteed to piss her off, and guaranteed to make her change her phone number. When she picks up the phone, does she say "This better be damn good!"? That's a problem. Stop calling. If there is a real emergency, be very, very quick, or consider having someone else call her. But never get in her face this way.

2. Beg her to take you back. Whining is really unattractive. It shows a horrid lack of self-esteem. Yes, you're hurting. Really hurting. But begging just makes it worse. You have to chill about this. There are better ways to approach her.

3. Trying to come across as the sexiest man alive. No offense, but if you were the sexiest man alive, you, and not Johnny Depp would be on the cover of People magazine. The "you know you want me" routine is old and juvenile. It comes across as very insincere and shows you care more about your ego than her. It also gives the impression that you don't know who you really are, so you pretend to be something else. Drop the act and just be yourself. You'll get a lot farther.

4. Trying to make her jealous. This is a high school game and is absolutely pathetic. "If I want my ex girlfriend back, I just need her to see a beautiful woman on my arm," you think. Bad think. Very bad think, honey bun. If I saw you with another woman, I'd walk up, introduce myself, congratulate her on such a great catch, and give her my phone number in case she ever wants advice. This game will backfire on you. Don't play it.

5. Following her around to see what she's doing. This is serious, bubba. It may seem harmless to you, but it could be considered stalking, which is against the law in most parts of the United States. If you're thinking about it, stop right now and set a torch to that idea. If you are actually doing this, you should know that it's really, really wrong. Stop now and find someone neutral to talk to, a friend or a counselor. Get some perspective and get a grip. From your ex girlfriend's point of view, she not only won't want you back, she'll be creeped out and she might just call the cops

By now you see that if you change your perspective about your behaviors, you can see how they might affect your ex girlfriend. We've looked at some fairly lighthearted things, and we've looked at some more serious things. You can see why you need to be cautious and consider each move carefully if you really want your ex girlfriend back. So watch out for these mistakes; you can't afford the trouble.

"Okay, I know now I need to tread carefully if I want my ex girlfriend back," you think. "But how do I repair damage I've already done?" The Clean Slate method can help you start over and erase those hurtful things you may have said. Find out how it works along with great techniques for approaching her in this step-by-step action plan at http://www.relationshipteam.com.

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